Social group or society. Social norms usually

Social Norms provide people standards of behaviors. The norms are basically rules of behaviors that are considered acceptable in a group or society. Social norms usually serve a purpose and create the foundation of correct conduct  or what society calls correct behavior.   In fact,  the norm for personal space have developed over many thousands of years. It was provoked with individualism and autonomy (Whitbourne,2012).  This has a lot to do with fundamental attribution, the more familiar you are with an individual the likely you are to commit, its just like saying the more you are around people doing the same thing, the more likely you are to join and believe the same as they do .  In our society personal space is valued strongly and can be seen as something someone is born with, and it’s almost like your individual rights that your born with, well that’s “society’s rules” it’s not really in a book saying you can and can’t do this or that  but its whats seems rights and what is more of a social tradition that everyone know.   Ideally, the physical closeness is determined by the relationship with that person. In a public setting, where people are sitting together at a table or close are often more comfortable together rather than a total stranger sitting next to you or standing behind you breathing down your neck where it gives you the chills and aggravating feeling.  Violating this is like breaking a rule. Triggering the person whose space your violating and even other people around you. As part of my research, i decided to break this social norm in any circumstance i came across, possibly making this as uncomfortable for that person and the people around as possible. To get different reactions i did it a couple  times to different people, in different settings. I tried this over and over again, beginning at school in the commons area. The social norm of this environment is like any other eating environment: people sat with people they knew and was comfortable with If they didn’t see anyone they recognized then they tend to sit alone rather than find someone new. I sat with two different guys, who i didn’t know and have never seen nor spoken to them ever. I awkwardly came up to them and started talking, just saying things completely random. At first they look at me weird like okay what are you doing, i proceeded but i sat down in between them. I started leaning on one of the guys like i have known  him for years, the other guy i was gazing at his phone as he typed “Lets go this girl is weird” so i followed them. Sat down again and proceeded to do the same thing but i sat even closer, guy 1 started patting me on my head as if i was hurt and needed someone to talk to the other guy said “Dude chill out, it’s called personal space for a reason!”. He got all hostile with me and everyone started to  just stare. This brings up a interesting point, you may notice the  people we interact with tend to have the same preferences as us so we may not usually notice that we carefully maintain the same physical distance from each other However, we may feel odd ,uncomfortable, or weird if someone else ‘breaks the rules’ by being too close or even to far making it really awkward (Sammons,2011). Typically there are many different ways you can violate someone’s personal space, making them feel uncomfortable and aggravated. The one that annoys me the most is when i’m shopping and someone comes and stand right next to me almost shoulder to shoulder or reaching over me. There are a variety of possible reactions that people can have by violating this norm. Some will walk away, or slowly inch away, some will look at you crazy, others will completely ignore you but then their are those who will speak their mind and tell you your violating their space. I decided to test this one out at Walmart with my boyfriends assistance. He would stand back and observe the persons reactions and our surroundings. I began by finding my target, i followed this lady and her toddler. Whatever she put in her cart, i put in mine. It wasn’t long before she noticed i was following her and doing the same thing and getting closer each time, she then moved over as if she was telling me to go ahead like get in front of her. She is the person who completely ignores what your doing but also tries to walk away or avoid the situation. My boyfriend tells me as i walked off she began to look around and look really worried or weird. She pointed at me as she was talking to someone else, like she was warning them about me. Another suspect was a older lady she was about in her forties. I was just browsing through the aisle, she dropped something the reaches for it, i reach for the same item. She gives me the dirties look, but then smiles and say “i’m sorry was that yours” as if a dropped it.  From a distance we sat back and watched her to talk to someone she was with and look back. It looked like she was telling maybe her daughter about the situation. From both of these situations the people around looked at me weird, and gave me looks, some even made side conversations.  People don’t like for their personal space to be taken away from them or violated because it gives them a sense of not having control of the situation or their surroundings. It’s like when driving and someone is riding the back of your car, leaving you no room to slam on breaks in an emergency without causing another accident (Miller, 2016) It could even be interpreted as lack of breathing room or thinking, when someone is really close to you it makes you feel like you can’t function correctly.Generally speaking, these norms have became apart of our everyday lives, making them standards of behaviors. These unspoken rules of behavior  are considered acceptable, with them they set boundaries. And essentially it’s how far we want someone to stand from us when conversing and anything. We have interaction zones, which are: Intimate distance this is for your significant other. Personal distance which is for yourself, Social distance is reserved for anyone who is speaking to you this is like the ok zone where its not uncomfortable but if you get any close it will be and Public Square is for complete strangers (Hillman, 2014). Social norms usually serve a purpose and create the foundation of correct conduct  or what society calls correct behavior.